Thanks for your question.
I'll start by asking a few questions:
- Do you find yourself doing your assignments the night before they're due?
- Does one class blur into another without you really knowing what was covered or what is coming up next?
- Do you walk into exams worrying about what you might forget rather than focussing upon how well you’ve prepared?
These are all signs that you're falling victim to self-sabotage.
Self-sabotaging behaviour occurs whenever your behaviour is not consistent with your intended goals. The reality is that while this behaviour might start in school it can continue well throughout your career-life. For instance, would you be likely to leave the preparation for a job interview until the night before?
Hence, if people are telling you that you're not working to your potential they are really telling you that your current behaviour is not consistent with what your goals should be.
The antidote for self-sabotaging behaviour is to be absolutely clear about why you want to achieve your goals. Don’t just set goals – ask yourself ‘why do I want to achieve this goal?’ and ‘what will achieving this goal give me?’
Then focus upon the specific strategies required to achieve these goals – self-discipline is often required here. (read the FAQ asked recently about motivation)
Finally, set up your environment so that you can avoid distractions. I recently worked with a client who spent up to 3 hours night chatting on MSN. We worked out that over the year, this added up to about 2 months full time chatting!
Wow - that is a lot of wasted time! Ask yourself, what difference will this activity make to my life in 12 months time? If your honest answer is NONE - you know what to do!
For you to achieve your potential, self-discipline is key. Developing these behaviours now will help you work consistently towards your potential - however extraordinary that is!